Are your Goals Your Own?

Back in 2018, we had just finished one of our quarterly Opulence Business Intensive events in Lombok, Indonesia.

I’d booked some down-time at a local resort after the event, and bought Mark Manson’s excellent book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck to read on the beach.

One thing he said in the book really stuck with me…

‘Make sure that your goals are your own.’

It made me question - were my goals really what I wanted, or had I unconsciously taken on board expectations from outside of myself?

I questioned whether my goals actually came from my heart, or whether I had inherited them from some other construct - society, family, or some deeper psychological need I hadn’t explored.

Did my yearning for success come from my primal human instinct to belong? To fit into a tribe?

After all, we are all social creatures and learn ‘how to be’ from others. Our programming began when we were little kids or even babies.

We learn ‘our place’.

We learn what to aspire to (‘get a good job and settle down’).

As entrepreneurs, most of us have that rebellious streak that says ‘no thanks’ to society’s people blueprint.

We go out on our own and start our own business.

We choose to live a different life.

But still, we do feel pressures and expectations from those around us. Maybe without even realising it…

Today I want you to think about this -

How do you set goals for your life?

What is your true motivator behind them?

And how will you know when you’ve reached them?

I’m curious to know.

Hit reply and tell me your thoughts, or join the conversation here.