One of our Opulence members recently hit the $1 million mark in his business.
A pretty massive achievement for this bloke who considers himself ‘a bit of a cowboy’.
I caught up with him recently for a chat about his success.
One thing he said really struck me:
“It took me a long time to believe I deserved it.”
You see, when he first joined us, Chris (that’s his name) had some pretty big, sneaky limiting beliefs working behind the scenes.
Beliefs like -
I’m not qualified enough to be successful
Only blokes with Uni degrees make lots of money
I’m just a bit of a gambler that got lucky with this business
These wild beliefs are called ‘cognitive biases’ - and we all have them.
You see, Chris grew up in a modest home, among a family that earned an average wage.
As he grew up, he unconsciously developed beliefs around money and success.
Even in his 40s, his idea of the type of person that ran a million dollar business was vastly different to what he saw in the mirror.
So he went through his life feeling like he didn’t deserve every win he ever had.
Instead of feeling like he’s bluffing his way to success (and sabotaging himself when he got too far out of his comfort zone), Chris has learned how to give himself credit.
He’s learned to be who he really is, authentically. To accept himself, and own his achievements without shame.
It got me thinking about Tall Poppy Syndrome.
In Australia, we are almost ashamed of our success.
Most of us could make $100k a year and still drive around in our beaten up Mazda.
We don’t want to look like we’re bragging.
We don’t want to look like we’re getting ‘too big for our boots’.
We don’t want to look like a w*nker.
You know, the 50 year old guy who drives in a convertible with the top down - gasp! what a showoff.
The lady who eats at fancy restaurants 5 nights a week because she loves fine dining (ugh, she just loves to flaunt her wealth).
We Australians can be so eager to tear people to shreds for enjoying their wealth and success.
It’s so embedded in our culture that most of us grow up believing that wealthy people are the enemy. That they’re arrogant, silver-spooned, will step on ‘the little people’...
So it’s no surprise that we make wealth creation hard.
It’s no surprise we unconsciously sabotage our growth when we feel we’re reaching too high.
We don’t want to turn into one of ‘them’.
But realistically, assholes exist in every economical class.
And so do some really good, kind, decent people.
So don’t let your bias around wealth hold you back from your goals.
Shine your light.
If you want my help realigning your mindset around wealth, hit reply and let me know.
I’ve got a few great resources that can help. I’ll hook you up.