There’s no such thing as reality.
No I haven’t cracked up… just hear me out.
In business and in life, we experience things through a filter.
Our brain filters millions of pieces of information each day. We’re constantly receiving data from our senses. If we felt the full impact of all that information at once, we’d probably have a breakdown!
So the brain uses past patterning to filter out the stuff it thinks we don’t want, and filter in the stuff we want to pay attention to.
This means that reality is completely subjective. We only ever experience it through our own ‘filter’.
It’s why you can put two people in a room, show them some stimuli, and both of them will describe it back to you differently.
Remember in The Matrix when Neo is trying to bend a spoon with his mind?
As that little kid says, ‘There is no spoon… it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself’...
We’re not in control of life.
We can only control the meaning we put on situations and experiences that happen around us.
Here’s where the subjectivity of reality shoots us in the foot…
Experiences we have back when we’re kids, big or small, shape our initial belief system about the world, and ourselves.
As adults, we still use that belief system to place meaning on the situations that happen to us.
This meaning can be that we’re not safe, that we can’t trust people, that we’re not loved… whatever our child-state decided about the world way back then.
So we keep imprinting the same situations the same way.
A classic example is the child whose parent left the family unit, and grows up thinking every partner will abandon them.
Here’s where it gets really interesting…
We actually keep recreating these situations, because we’re unconsciously trying to resolve them.
For the person afraid of abandonment, that might mean pushing their partner away to unconsciously prove they’re ‘right’ (and subconsciously reinforce their belief that people they care about leave).
Life keeps teaching you the same lesson until you learn it.
The thing is, we can’t resolve pieces within a broken belief system until we have an experience that’s the opposite of the one we want to change.
Once we are able to revise this patterning at a fundamental level, we can put intentions out into the world that are aligned with our real adult selves.
But until that internal work is done, we keep looking at life through a set of special glasses that limit our vision.
That’s why at The Game Changers, a lot of the work we do is on your internal belief system.
We seek to identify the belief patterns that are holding you back, understand where they came from, and then change them into beliefs that are aligned with who you want to be, and where you want to go.
When our members start working on their inner game, they also start doubling (or even tripling) their business growth and revenue. Coincidence? Nope.;)