Think about one of your big goals.
Just put it on the projector inside your head… what does it look like?
More importantly, what does it feel like?
Do you feel your heart quickening? Do you tense up a little bit?
Our goals are usually tied up in materialistic things. It makes sense, because that stuff is easy for us to conceptualise.
Yet what we really want from that goal is the emotional experience of reaching it.
And if your goals are making you take an energetic step back… that’s a clear sign you’re not actually going to let yourself achieve it.
Because on some level, becoming the person who achieves that goal is uncomfortable.
It challenges a preconceived idea about yourself that you don’t want to let go.
The thing is, the experiences we have regularly become the experiences we expect. They become comfortable. Yes, even the crappy experiences.
You’re familiar with them. You know what to expect.
And you don’t know what else is out there… so you subconsciously reject the unknown.
For example, I was brought up in a ‘meat and 3 veg’ family.
Every dinner was pretty much the same. And it was great, because Mum had nailed those dishes, and those staple meals were delicious. Maybe you can relate 🙂
But when I started to get older, I’d go on dates and find myself at restaurants.
And I’d be putting ‘strange’ foods on the side of my plate. I wouldn’t eat mushrooms, or capsicums, I’d avoid ordering dishes that I wasn’t familiar with…
I was basically assuming that unfamiliar foods wouldn’t taste right. And naturally, when I did try to eat them, they didn’t taste right at all. Because my mind was meeting my expectation.
Soon it got embarrassing. (Naturally)
It became so uncomfortable for me to be there picking my food apart like a man-child, that I started to eat new things to fit in with social norms.
Now I love a variety of foods, and genuinely enjoy eating them. Because my mindset changed around how I perceived and responded to them.
I don’t think we spend enough time challenging our assumptions and beliefs.
And that’s because our beliefs are so deeply ingrained in us, that we don’t even think to question them.
In business, these beliefs can look like -
I can’t find good staff
You have to struggle to succeed
Making money is hard
There’s no way to compete in a big market
How much of that is actually true, and how much is just a belief you have?
(Hint: it’s actually rubbish)
And the moment we stop to question our deep beliefs… that’s when new possibilities open up for a different reality.
That's where growth comes from.
That’s how you start becoming the person you need to be, to get where you want to go.